"My husband is very patient and lets me take my time, but if I go with anybody else I feel as if I am holding them up. "

Okay, I think you need to do the Scarlett O'Hara at the barbeque trick (remember, back in the day 'ladies' didn't chow down in public). Basically, you eat before you go out to eat. Snarf down a protein shake, for example. Then you go out to eat, and have a small portion or appetizer ... you get the pleasure of company and something different to taste without the need to rush. Very French.