Venting in a safe environment, for whatever the reason, is an important part of healing. Think about how awful it is when we keep our fears and worries bottled up inside. Not venting is psychological self-mutilation.

We all have expectations of where one should be following the OC experience. But we also know that there isn't one way. Four years out and my husband still deals with many issues, eating being a BIG one. I completely understand your sadness. So many social situations are centered around a meal. I encourage my husband to attend gatherings but I don't push it. He is reluctant to eat in front of others--it is a messy and slow process.

And remember, that other people who are not familiar with OC, have ridiculously high expectations, too. "Gosh, I though he'd be over that by now." How many of us have heard that one?

I love this forum. It is safe, friendly, and supportive. And there are no limits to that. We get you!

Take care-
Anita