You WILL get through this, Liza and you are doing exactly what you should be doing to survive as is everyone else in supporting you. I saw a PBS story about someone researching stress in Baboons and applying his research to humans. He noted that stress can cause all kinds of physical symptoms, including aging and obesity especially in the belly area. To combat stress he found that surrounding yourself with people who have like experiences, actively helping someone else, and using humor - ALL things which we all do here! So whether we are survivors or caregivers it is doing us all a tremendous amount of healing to be here!