Thanks all. I just wish I had the answers that apparently no one has.

Gary, I have "fired" him many times before. Works for a while and within a month or so I smell it again and so it starts. He doesn't work for me full time. I only call him when I need him and 95% of the time he drops what he is doing and saves my day (usually restaurant emergencies) so to a certain extent I need him as well. I don't pay him but I do pay his cell phone, rent and utilities as they are all in my name so I do hold the power of the purse strings and that is what I use the most to try and get him to attend meetings. Like night and day when he quits he resumes going to his church and is really a totally different person to be around. I don't view him as a problem or my problem rather a human in need and I hope that I can help him.

After reading everybodies painful real experiences I'm probably not going to succeed but I don't plan to give up either. We all have our faults and I guess being naive this way is mine but I can't change so I gotta do what my heart tells me. There's a sucker born every day.

David

Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.