He called me about an hour and a half after I posted saying that he was "sick yesterday but feels better now." Yeah right! I told him what I needed done today and he showed up on time. I told him when he showed up that I had already made another appt for Monday 9am so "meet me here at my office at 8:45 and don't have alcohol in your body!" Swore he wouldn't and off he went and did his chores.

My guess is that 30% of the time I have known him he has been off the juice (I swear I will never drink again, I feel so much better when I don't drink, etc, etc) Those are the times when I try my darnest to get him to sign up for help; 69% of the time he has been a functioning abuser and 1% of the time he misses days like yesterday and I want to punch him in the face. It's really a tragedy. With his talent and no alcohol he could easily be living on easy street today. His talent and alcohol he will die homeless and young. I just hate to see a life go to waste and be helpless to affect a change.

David

Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.