Thanks everyone for all of your heartfelt words and for the wisdom and experience that you all have shared with me.  Jim lost his battle yesterday @ 10:45 am.  I was holding his hand and rubbing his arm.  His breathing never changed - he took one deep gasp of air and then it was done.  Death is a thief and it has robbed me of the one thing that was purposeful to me.  
I have an appointment at 1:00 today to make funeral arrangements....wish I could crawl into a hole and die with him.
Paula