Paula, I'm so, so sorry for all you are going through. Without a doubt the most difficult thing in life is to watch someone you love so much suffer. You have been a GREAT caregiver to Jim. It is natural to second guess yourself but please don't do that. Jim is very lucky to have you. I will pray for a quick, peaceful passing for Jim. He is going to finally be pain free and at peace in a better place.

Eric's post was beautiful. Jim is on a journey that we all will make one day. Continued prayers to both of you and your family. Wanda

Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009)
1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+)
2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed
Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT
4-15-09 - treatment completed
8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear
4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction
10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives)
11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2