Bloop19 I am in Lake Havasu. As far as your family goes right now you need to take everything one day at a time. They have no idea how you are feeling inside and maybe just trying to make this a nice Holiday for you. But right now you are just worrying about sitting by the bathroom. I feel for you and understand. I have sucked it up many times for family and friends and sometimes it was good because it took my mind off things but then yet other times they could see how sick I was and stared not knowing what to say or do. So my advice is to see how you are feeling that day and take it from there. I am so sorry that you lost husband. Remember take it one day at a time on YOUR TERMS.