Thanks all. We did sit down and discuss it last night. I think it was Tuesday night I downloaded some sample wills and created my will, then went through that with her to find out her wishes. I maybe wasn't able to discuss everything I wanted to but we made it through enough, albeit tearfully.

Now my next problem. We have two dogs and Pam is wanting to adopt a third dog. Over the past couple of months, I have been able to put this off. One of the ways I have used is that I would consider fostering a shelter dog to see how it would go. Well for the past five weeks, we have been fostering rescue dogs. The first attempt was with two minature pinchers (yes, a total of four dogs) that after three weeks I forced finding another foster home for them because they were too much with Pam spending three days in the hospital with an infection. Within two days we had another foster dog. I brought up this situation to her MO at her last appointment and basically asked for a prescription stating no more dogs. The MO agreed saying that she should be using her energy and time for herself, her family and traveling if possible. At the time it sounded like Pam would take a break for awhile after this foster. Now a week later, this foster is getting adopted and Pam is talking about getting another dog, and then take a break in the winter.

My question is what do I do? I know she is enjoying taking care of these dogs, that it gives her something to get up for everyday but am worried that she is spending the last of her "healthy" time taking care of the dogs. Do I just go along with her wishes (which I am probably inclined to do) or be more blunt stating my worries that by winter she may not be up to traveling? I have suggested possible trips including Houston or New York to visit cancer centers. Her response has been that she isn't ready to check out other treatment yet, but again I am worried that she should seek other opinions while she is still strong. From reading some others experiences, it seems like once health starts to fail, it can go fairly quick.

Would appreciate anyones thoughts or suggestions. Thanks.