Hi Tom
making a will was something rob had never done,and never really thought about.The day he got his terminal diagnosis,he had me ring a solicitor and she came to the house.He dictated his wishes to her and i am so glad he did it straight away,because a few days later his voice had all but disappeared and he was zoned out with morphine pyschosis,and they wouldn't have been able to do it .When he went into the hospice and he was sorted out with meds etc,we talked for many hours about his funeral,the music he wanted,where he wanted to be buried,what he wanted every one to wear,the wake,his personal belongings,what treatment he wanted,what measures he wanted regarding resucitation and best of all he opened his heart about his feelings.it was surreal really,that he could be so matter of fact about it all,but when he died,it made one part of my life so easy,because all i had to do was follow his wishes.

For people who have more time than we did,i think they are happy to get these things done and out of the way,and then they can concentrate on making the most of those weeks/months they have left together.
I am sure that for most people who have been where you are its one of those things hard as it may seem,thats better done sooner than later.

love liz