Thank you all for the input. I think I just find it difficult to do, that it is easier to ignore. By talking about it and making a will is almost like admitting that barring a miracle, this is going to happen. I did mention to her tonight that we should sit down and make out our wills and I can probably lead that into a discussion of everything else.

Thanks again, you all have some good advice as usual.


Tom-CG to wife, Pam 46@dx
Stage IV Tongue Cancer T2N2C
Dx 6/08, Surgery 7/08, 3 nodes positive
9/08 33IMRT/7Carbo/Taxol
4/09 node biopsy positive, mets to lungs/stomach
5/09 Cisplatin or Cis/Alimta study
6/09 Cis/Taxotere
9/09 Taxotere
1/10 Xeloda
3/10 Cetuximab weekly
6/29/10 lost battle