Just let them do anything they try to do. Buy stuff, clean stuff, organize stuff...just go with it. They will need to keep busy. Make/Let them feel needed. Start a honey do list today. There has to be a few things your dad can work on while he's there? The hardest thing for the caregiver is to feel helpless. I kept busy taking care of our 3 kids and my 87 year old mom, could NOT imagine not having that distraction. Go for walks with them. Go out to dinner while you can. Let them treat you to your favorites. Live it up!! ;o) Seriously though, keep them busy. When they see you in person they will see how positive you are and it will ease their minds. Kathy
Kathy wife/caregiver to: Kevin age:53 Dx 7/15/11 HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R Non smoker, casual drinker 7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11 PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11 Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14
