Rachael,
I'm very sorry to hear of your mother's news. My mother is going through her 4th round with oral cancer - this last time it's in her neck. When I first came to this website I looked around a good while before I started posting. All of this was so new to me - a bit scary but very informative. Since I started posting I have found nothing but wonderful people who are eager to offer explanations, advice and support. This is a great site and the others are right - your mother would benefit from posting here. If my mother had access to a computer, I would definitely introduce her to it. Take one day at a time and make it the best you can. I will be thinking of you and your mom and watching for your updates. Take care.

Nancy T