x28007,
Welcome and congratulations to you for reaching the one year milestone as a cancer survivor. Vent as much as you like it helps. I'm not sure if you wanted some suggestions about the points you posted or were just venting. I decided that I would offer my assistance to try and help you put a smile back on your face.
My cancer as you can see in my profile was not oral cancer but, I felt similar anger about what life had dumped on me and messed up my "normal".
Dry mouth from radiation can be miserable. Unfortunatly you can either put up with it or try to learn to live with it. There are things that you can do to immediatly help the situation and as well, stimulate regeneration in the affected salivary glands.
If you could let me know what you are currently doing or what your doctors suggested you do for dry mouth I may be able to help you. The same goes for eating, a few details of the exact problems could allow me to offer some solutions.
I know from my own experience that suddenly you feel all alone when you aren't going for examinations and treatment regularly. Then emotions and anger set in. Sure you have been told it will get better but until it does you are the one who deals with it.
If you would like me to try and help you out let me know. You can PM or e-mail me if you don't want to post the details.
I hope you felt a little better after you vented.
Cheers,
Mike