I really appreciate everyone's replies today, you have what I need now, the perspective I couldn't see, my dad's as someone who has been through this. Eileen, I'm really grateful to hear that the neck dissection wasn't bad, the fear of the unknown got me on that, I was afraid of what I didn't understand. I've been reading about it on the web, just wish I could have done that prior to the surgery, the surprise was terrible. I sure did blow off steam in my post, I'm grateful to be able to talk about it with you all.

God bless,
Deb