Hey Minniea,
Good to hear from you. I don't have much advice on this yet, as we are pretty new to it all. Hopefully, you will get more responses. I can say that my husband is reacting the same way. I probably would like to talk about what he has went through more, but he wants to just go on and not really discuss it now. We only talk about it some when there is another appointment or test. Maybe it's the male way of reacting? Or maybe just different personalities? Anyway, hang in there and I draw a lot of strength from God, and have found a few good friends that I can talk about it with. They are open to just hearing me discuss it and my fears about the future. With that big of family you might not have a lot of time, but get one or two good friends that are open to letting you just "talk" about the cancer and all you have went through, both physically and emotionally. It's a release for me!
Take care! smile

Debbie/Caregiver/wife of Dan, diagosed with SCC tongue, Stage II/III, 1/3 tongue removal, lymph node dissection both sides of neck, skin graph 7/30/03. Left tumor found - radical left neck dissection 12/24/03. Could not get all of tumor/wrapped around carotid artery and in wall of jugular. 1/12/04 beginning of 6 doses of Taxol/Cistoplatin once a week, and rad 70 gray 5 days a week/6 weeks.