I need some advice on my husband. First, he has been a rock for me and the kids through all this. A little background first, I had stage 4 squamous cell carcinoma in my left jaw, neck dissection with one node positive, and 32 radiation treatments to both sides. They did an operation on April 16th where they removed my lower jawbone and replaced it with the small bone in my left leg. It was quite an operation, very scary for my family. My issue now, 6 months later, is that my husband trys to act like this never happened. I don't feel he is doing it intentionally, but he is acting that way. The kids still need to talk about with me, be reassured, but if my husband is there he will say "let's not talk about this, your mom is better now". I talked to him and he said that he doesn't want it to become a part of our life. He doesn't understand that it will be a permanant part of our lives. I love my husband dearly, we have 7 children ages 9-23 and two beautiful grandchildren. We have had such an awesome marriage so far, are raising such an incredible family. I hear of marriages that fall apart after cancer comes into it. Any help would be greatly appreciated.