Dear Marlene, all the steps you've taken above are very good ones. And I know many caregivers here are thinking "Thank Heavens Marlene is getting some help!" Keep getting as much help as you can and include the kids as much as possible. The more personal contact they have with Alan's battle, the more it will strengthen them as adults. If you need a "kick in the pants" or a shoulder to cry on, I'm here as are many other caregivers who learned that we indeed could cope when we had to. Amy in the Ozarks