Dear Marlene, unlike Donna, I do have advice to offer since I have recently been in your shoes. You DO need Hospice help-NOW- or you will quickly become a "basketcase" from lack of sleep and too much responsibility. Please belive me when I say that Hospice will make Alan more comfortable than you can, and will teach you things about nursing that you don't know. You need to disregard your children's advice about the hospital bed and do what is best for you and Alan. This is not about sleeping together, it is about coping with his cancer and your stress level. [ In fact, I had to disregard alot of advice from John's son during his last 3 months because son was #1.in denial about his Dad's condition, #2.son was only in and out of our house to visit- not there 24\7 #3.Son had no clue as to the effect the pain meds were having on John mentally, which also affected me because it was hard to leave him alone for very long - ie- no sleep for me. If you daughter can't handle the bookkeeping, find a temp. bookkeeper. You will not be able to run your business and take care of Alan as he gets worse. This is where you have to gather up all the strength you have to go forward. Sending you best wishes. Amy in the Ozarks