Dear Vicki,

When I was first diagnosed I told my wife and boss not to tell anyone else. It was like if I discussed this beast then it would be for real and not a dream. Classic denial. After a lot of prayer and many conversations with myself, I realized it is what it is. Whether I discuss it or not won't change my diagnosis. Emotionally I felt better when I let everyone in my life in on my illness. I felt truly blessed by the out pouring of their concern and prayers. At a time like this I think it's better to draw nearer to friends and family than to push them away through secrecy.

You can talk to us any time you like.

Tim