Vicki, It must be rough not being able to talk things out. It sounds like hubby may be in denial at this point. (The first or maybe the second stage of grieving according to Kubler-Ross). Sooner or later the truth will have to come out, and then it will be easier to deal at work. Until that time, vent here all you want. That's what you need? That's what you do!

Best wishes,
Andrea