My husband was recently diagnosed with Stage IV base of tongue cancer. 3 positive nodes found on neck dissection done 1-9-07.
Only a very few people in our circle of friends are aware of what is happening. We both work for a radiology group, and although we haven't disclosed what is happening.....because of requesting for time off for his surgery, and having to have doctors fill out paperwork for temp. disability, etc, a couple people at work know "something" is going on. My husband doesn't want me to discuss it with people at work...I return to work tomorrow after being out for 3 wks since his surgery. It is so hard not having any one I can talk to for support. I haven't been myself at work since the diagnosis and it is obvious to my co-workers that I'm distracted and not myself.
I just wish I could let them know so that I could have some supportand they would understand my new disposition, but I have to honor my husband's wishes.
I am really dreading returning to work now and leaving my husband at home. He won't be starting therapy for a couple weeks.
At least I have this forum to let things out.
Thanks.
Vicki