Mark, I think the type of anger Brian and others are talking about is different from what you are.I have lost many loved ones over the years and after grief comes anger, it is part of the healing process. After my first cancer operation when I got angry my husband smiled, he said he knew I would be ok then.I will have my 11 operation on 2/23, I do not want to get on the table again, but I get angry at myself and say" You wimp, your cancer free now and want to look normal and this is how you do it!" Getting angry and being bullheaded has gotten me thru 3 years and 4 months of medical hell. It is a personal anger that I put to good use.I think this is more what everyone is talking about.