Hi Cindy, I remember when hubby's ENT told us it would be a year before he's start to feel like his old self. Hubby scoffed and thought 3 months, I scoffed and figured 6 (hubby is tough <g>).

Well, it was much closer to the year the doc quoted...it does take time. If you can't get your husband to journalize his progress, try doing if for him. I did a bit of that for hubby (and friends who followed his progress). You can see it on our website, http://www.hncancer.com and follow the links to Our Journey.

As to the caregiver side, boy do I ever empathyze with you! Mike is a doer and that did help - he worked through all his radiation as well as all but the first 3 days of surgery (had his laptop brought to the hospital). But there were days were the vomiting or the fatigue were so bad and he wondered if he would ever taste anything again, he hated the heavy thick mucous...etc.

Hang in there and at least talk to the doctor about trying a change to his anti-depressant meds. That might help as well...