Gary, I agree with you that sometimes we need to tell our caregiver that the entire battle is not yet over even though we are in remission. My husband has little knowledge about how dreadful and wicked cancer can be. I have a sore throat these days and feel a bit worried (I made a medical appointment today for peace of mind). My husband responded by saying that it is good for me to get some other kind of discomfort in my body, which means I am back to be a normal person and that indicates cancer is over. What is the logic? When I told him that a sore throat may be a symptom of recurrence, he just thought I was too sensitive and had no trust about my own body.Occasionally, I shared the tragic news I read from OCF, he would say these battle losers were just unlucky and his wife is different from them. Why should I be the winner while others who were younger,who had stronger will or who were at an earlier stage of cancer be defeated? A question I always ponder.My husband felt much happier than me when I first resumed my job. He thought that everything unpleasant was over and his wife is now 100% back to normal. Unrealistic expectations. A caregiver can never understand the emotional state of the patient. We live under stress every day because the harm is already done by our enemy although we claim that we have defeated it for the time being.The horrible memories of shocking news and painful treatment stay in our mind forever. Mutual understanding and acceptance between the 2 parties is important at this point.

Karen