Hey Mandi,
All I can say is that I will truly pray for you as a caregiver and your husband and his emotional state. My husband is healing now from the last treatments, and it's pretty nerve racking for me because of the extent and aggressiveness of his particular cancer, but he just goes on, does whatever they say he has to do, and is as positive as anyone could be. He is a more positive person than I am as far as personality, so it helps me deal with what has happened to us just watching him be so positive and never, ever complaintive.

May God Bless you as you do what you can to help the situation. I do fight the temptation to mother Dan and tell him what he can and cannot do, but I realize it and stop as he has to decide what he can handle doing and not doing.

Take care,
Debbie


Debbie - Caregiver for husband, Dan, diagnosed with tongue cancer 7/03. Partial gloss., mod. neck dissections, graft. Recurrence neck tumor 12/03. Radical left neck dissection 12/24/03-unable to get all the tumor. 8 weeks chemo/rad beginning 1/12/04.