Shar,
I have a felling that I have a pretty good idea as to how your daughter is feeling, I have a 13 year old brother who when not driving me crazy is usally pretty open about how he feels to me at least. He was the quietest kid you would ever meet and then we moved to louisiana and my mom got sick and well he got angry. He doesnt like to not be in controll you know he likes a very set schedule and when my mom got sick and we had katrina well I guess I can see where you begin to lose that safety blanket that is always protecting you. I thought that...well... I guess I didnt think. He was hurting and my mom was sick and well I think he started to feel like there was no one to protect him anymore. He has me and he has our parents but he cant really see that right now altough I have told him that if he ever needs to I guess you would say hang he can always no matter what come to me. It is hard to say sometimes when it is better to step foward or to step back but like I did with my brother and you will do with your daughter you figure out along the way how to read the waves a little better each day and you will find that even keel soon I promise. Just be prepared for the rough waves too. I was talking with someone the other day and I was really ticked at how my school schedule was changed for the umpteenth time and they said something that really made sense if we had no bad how would we know the good. You and your daughter will treasure the good all the more through all of this and one day you guys will look up and relize you arent angry anymore. I know I ramble quite a bit but in a way being able to ramble helps me alot. By the way I would love to talk to your daughter any time she can pm me or message me and I will try to respond that same day. As I have said before you are a very strong person and I just know that is the way your daughters are to very very strong. Oh wow I hope I didnt go on too much.
Sincerly
Dragon