Ann-Marie 07 - Children can be an amazing source of support. It's good for them to feel that they are a part of being able to help and be a part of your recovery. I would not reject the idea of allowing your ex-husband to be of help to you either. You said yourself that you didn't stop loving him when you divorced and I'm sure he still has feeling for you even though he re-married. When my ex and I divorced, we remained friends and when he remarried, we all got along well. Your ex probably needs to feel he can do something to help you through this (maybe his wife can help, too so she doesn't feel excluded). Don't worry about the "whining". It is NOT whining. You are at a vulnerable point and it's ok to have some compassion for yourself! So accept whatever help is offered. It will help you get past the difficult days so that you can be stronger and able to fight the cancer beast. Stay in touch with us and let us know your feelings and what's happening.