Jennie,
I was in the position that you now find yourself almost exactly 3 years ago. I think that the beginning of the whole episode was the worst. As time goes by, you just settle into what needs to be done as far as being a good caregiver.

Try to take some time out from what can be an all-consuming job. Take a walk, spend some time with friends...anything you can to regroup your strength. This is such a stressful time for you, as well as your husband, that you need to take care of your own health, too. At one point, my husband's doctors were threatening to start a chart on me and start making me do the weekly weigh-in to track weight loss.

I want to let you know that my husband is now at 3 years post-diagnosis and back to his full energy and enjoying life to the fullest. There can be light at the end of the tunnel.

This forum can be a great resource for you. There are many sympathetic and knowledgeable people on here that can help you as you make your way through this.

Best,
Anita


Husband Dx 12/02 Stage 4 Tonsil Cancer T1N2bM0; surgery, radiation, chemo 1/03 - 4/03.