You've had some disappointing news, but you are still better off than before because now you are both in this fight and and can take the steps necessary to stay in the fight mode. You don't have to figure out the whole process all at once or worry about the "what-ifs" which can be a crazy-maker. Just take each day and each step one at a time and then go on to the next. Write down any questions for your doctors or for us here. Writing things down releases them from your brain until you need to get back to them. And you know you have a whole bunch of compassionate and knowledgeable people here for support for both of you any time you check in, day or night.