Very sorry to hear the cancer is back. I had a recurrence 5 years after first surgery (also had RT). My cancer was also in my tongue. I went for multiple opinions when I had a recurrence, ended up with 2 surgeries that year, and then a 4th when I was diagnosed with dysplasia a year later, but I've been in the NED category since 2011.

As others have stated, surgery, RT, and chemo are really the only options to get rid of this cancer and I hope you and your husband's doctors are able to convince him to seek conventional treatment. Wishing you both the best!