I'm so glad you found this great place to be! - there are so many knowledgeable, compassionate people here to give you and your husband support and information. It is so heartbreaking to see someone you love so much just giving up. When I was at that point with my son, someone told me I needed to put my "nurse from Hell hat on" and tell him what's what. So I did, I went through all the things mentioned about family, but what clinched it was the mention of his 5-year-old daughter and what would happen to her should he lose his battle against the cancer beast. That did it. So keep going . . . The sooner your husband gets a biopsy to tell for sure what is happening, the sooner you can relieve the stress of not knowing,and imagining the worst. And whatever the outcome, you can start taking active steps to do what needs to be done. Stay close to us here, and let us know what's happening. Don't forget to take care of You, too.