Thank you all for your kind, supportive and "real" responses. I was very hesitant to join this forum, and now, I am really glad I did. I have broken down, lost my cool, and expressed my extreme concern for my husbands health with him. I see now that I must continue all of these things until he finally see the bigger picture. With your suggestions, I have a few more tricks up my sleeve.

Yesterday was a very rough day. I was being the supportive wife, and tagged along to an apt with the homeopathic "dr". When we finally went back to the patent room, and in just one moment I knew I was in for the fight of my life. The "dr" prescribed a yeast cleanse, and some other herbal treatment. He also suggested a finger prick blood view for analyzing for a viral infection. HE NEVER EVEN LOOKED IN MY HUSBAND MOUTH!!!!! HELLO???? Don't you think any "professional" should at least look at the area of concern???? I then had thoughts of just giving up, and letting my husband make all the decisions himself, that we were no longer a team. Your posts have reminded me that I can't give up on him, on us, on him for our kids, and our futures. I will continue to fight, I will continue to nag, and push and push until he goes to see his actual DOCTOR. He needs a biopsy done to verify our fears of a reoccurrence or not. He has not followed the post opporative appointment and preventative care appointments since his original diagnosis, which makes things harder. At an appoinment two years ago, he was recommended to have a second surgery to assist the cell structure regrowth since things had already started changing at that time. He never went back to the doctor after that appointment. The preventative surgery was never done.

Thank you all again for your support. I needed it more than you all know. In this very scary situation, I now have the strength to continue the fight. Thank you for that. I know I'm alone in this battle with my husband, yet with your responses, I see that I am not alone in this battle of supporting my husband...THANK YOU!!!