Im putting this on another post in case you would like to print the above reply.

I feel so bad for you. The situation really stinks!!!! Being a caregiver is difficult enough without having a stubborn patient. You really have your work cut out for you. Many caregivers have found that by printing out posts and leaving them laying someplace where the stubborn patient can "accidently" find them has worked. This way its not a battle, the printed posts will do the work for you and hopefully get your husband to seek out treatment instead of doing nothing and ignoring the situation. Ive seen this trick work many times with patients who were being stubborn.

Ive seen patients who have been in denial for months then to go for some type of alternative treatments. Unfortunately those patients realized when it was too late that the cancer can only be treated by the conventional methods. I hope your husband will understand that being in denial can be seen as being very selfish and in the end its harming everyone close to him.

As a caregiver, you have a hard job. Be kind to yourself. You have your hands full. Stop back often and know we are always here for you to lean on.

Good luck with everything!