Hiya Mandy Rose

I am down in Essex..but it doesn't show (for our American friends here, there are things called Essex man and Essex woman - think Jersey Girl and you'll get the picture lol).

Everyone's really good but all moved so quick...probably a lot cant be answered until post op and all the results writ up.

Re staging, with other cancers stage 4 are scary but in head and neck the combined primary and node appear to put most of us in that box as generally head and neck doesn't get spotted until a node pops up. When my lump in neck exhibited and was first checked in ENT the only tell tail from the tonsil was it was a slightly lighter shade pinky red than the healthy one.

Only started to grow around four weeks before surgery which was a good 13-16 weeks after neck lump started to show, then go away then came back to stay.

Rather hoping I can manage without the PEG..from what I hear it is a bit pot luck, some can manage without and some use it a little towards the end.

John