Deb, I dont mean to hijack your post, sorry. Here is my latest with J.

Joel is incredibly angry because of what he is going through--and because, if it isn't cancer, he's had radiation, surgery, chemotherapy, and teeth pulled all for nothing. He has said that he needed to get away by himself so he didn't lose his patience and have an outburst at home with me or the kids. He disappeared once for 12 hours. He comes back much happier and ready to be with us again.

I'm glad he's found a way to process what he's been through. It's still tough, but I feel like we're on the same side of this thing.

Ex-spouse MISDIAGNOSED with SCC-HN IVa 12/10. Tonsils out 1/11. 4 teeth out 2/11. TX Erbitux x2, IMRT x2 2/11. 2nd opinion-benign BCC-NOT CANCER 3/11. TX stopped 3/11. New doctors 4/11. ENT agrees with 2nd opinion 5/11. ENT scoped him-all clear 7/11. Ordered MRI anyway. MRI 8/22/11 Result-all clear.