Oh Deb and Karen. I've been there and no how you both feel. Crying is the best thing. It helped me. Just when I thought I would break I would cry, then be able to tackle another moment in another day. Venting here on ocf kept my sanity as well. You will both get through this and come out the other side. Battle scared and bruised but better as a person in so many ways. Hang in there girls.

Wife to Steve 43. DX 5 May 09. T4N2MO SCC tongue, floor of mouth, lymph nodes & jaw bone
No surgery
Teeth removed 06/07/2009
radiation 13/07/2009 x 7wks
chemo 15/07/2009 x 3 Cisplatin
last TX 28/08/2009
25/11/2009 PET-lymph node activity.
08/01/2010 CT Scan-ALL CLEAR
03/03/2010-Peg removed
01/2013 left side of Jaw removed and replaced with pectoral flap.
23/12/2020 scan show lesion in tongue
01/2021 SCC stage 3 base of tongue diagnosed
01/03/2021 chemotherapy started.