Kids do what has been modeled for them. When my brother in law was dying, two of my sons were very small (the other wasn't yet born). They drew him pictures and made him cards to take to the hospital. Wanting to protect my sons from something frightening, my mother begged me not to take them in to see their uncle. But, knowing they wanted to see him and suspecting he wanted to see my sons, I got my brother in law's permission to bring them in. I explained to my little boys who were 4 and 7 that their Uncle Larry had some tubes and wires that were hooked to machines that helped him feel better. When they walked in the hospital room, Larry's face lit up. My boys were so special to him and it meant the world to him and to my boys to have that time to visit. My sons are 17 and 20 now. And, through this and other opportunities to learn compassion and caring, they have grown into remarkably strong and giving young men.

I think when children are growing up, they are often shielded from the unpleasantness and heartbreak of the difficult things that are going on around them. Parents think they are doing the best thing by protecting their children from life. But, really, it isn't preparing them for when they will be called on to support someone who loves them. I have always had the mindset that we aren't raising children, we are raising adults. Raise children you can be proud of, who can care for their family, and who are of service to those around them who are in need.

All of you have modeled caring for others in your own life and for those who visit this forum and beyond. You have given of yourself with grace and generosity. Somewhere out there, in either body or spirit, there are some extremely proud parents! Thank you for all that you do for me and for others!

Love,
Sandy