I had a VERY close family memeber of mine say "Neil is so lucky that you are his wife because I just couldn't handle being there every moment for my husband". I just pray her husband never has to go through such a long and brutal illness. I just don't know how people can think of their OWN comfort when someone they love is going through such hell. I had people ask how I could commute to the hospital everyday following his first surgery. How could I not? What could be more important than being there for someone who is gravely ill? I still just don't get people sometimes. I just hope that my children take a lesson from what we've been through and that they step up someday should the need arise.