Dear HGT, we are new to this forum, I posted that my husband has been diagnosed with Stage 1 (possibly 2, depending who you talk to) and had the Photodynamic Therapy on December 2nd. The day he went to the dentist on November 3, and the hygenist called in the dentist - and he was at an oral surgeon within 2 hours for a biopsy. That was Monday and bless the surgeon, he pushed for a diagnosis of the biopsy (he was going to see his parents out of town) and also set up an appointment with Roswell Cancer Institute for my husband the following week. Those events changed our lives, forever, HGT, and like you were are scared silly here. Also we know that, like you, our family means the world and we are going to Fight this thing as much as we can. We may not have resources available to some, and have read that you can and do lose "things" sometimes, but the main part is that you are still here, with your young family. That is the Key. There is help for things you need, we are in NY and have food stamps, programs to take advantage of if we need them. We see you are in Illinois and my mother grew up there and still has many family in Illinois. Do not lose hope, things will probably not stay the same, your job may change to a Different job, but the important part is that you are Here. Sorry to jump in, but I truly wanted you to know that already I can see this is a place of support and love and we are all in this Together - each of us. None is less or more fortunate than another as we all are facing the same adversary and we will Win - we will not look back as that is yesterday - and you know the old saying - you only have Today! Lots of love to you and your family, and you have alot of friends here.