I am sorry that I was stern with you. Im glad that you realize the severity of your situation. I am so glad that you have a good strong support system with your wife and daughter. Thats what will get you thru this. Dont worry about being a burden to your family, thats what families are all about. They are there for you and families stick together.

Finacially speaking, its rough but you can get thru this. I am now on social security disability since I am not able to work anymore. Down the road, who knows what can happen. Im a single mother and worried so much about my kids what would happen if I didnt get thru it. I found out that being poor isnt the worst thing that can happen. It took me a long time to come to terms with being 'disabled'. I had to keep telling myself over and over...'its only a house and its only money'.

Look under the financial tab on the main forum pages for things that can help you. I know the American Cancer Society helps some with up to $300 in services. Jobs come and go, even with the economy Im sure you will be able to find another job later.

Im glad you have found OCF. We will help you not just with advice, we are here to lean on as well. Depression is very prevalent with cancer patients. Im glad you told me you werent suicidal, I was concerned about that. That would void any life insurance anyway. Your second post shows me that you really do understand and care about the situation. The very best thing you can do is to get to a cancer center. Here is a list of them... http://oralcancerfoundation.org/resources/index.htm#centers

Hang in there, we will help you!