Sharlee - I definitely agree with the above. You need to take care of yourself and get some help! Any mother at home taking care of 5 children is doing a superhuman job. And that is not even mentioning taking care of a house, a husband and volunteering. Making a decision like distancing yourself from this person is very difficult but you have to do it for yourself, your health and your sanity and for your children. So many women stay in a bad situation because they are afraid of the unknown and because it seems better to put up with the familiar as painful and horrible as it is and because "maybe he will change". I know, I stayed in an abusive relationship for 20 years with an alcoholic. I kept trying to "fix" him. You cannot change or fix anybody but yourself. So please do as Brian suggests and do it today! You are way too important to us and to your children and especially to yourself. The first step in making a change is the hardest but you CAN DO IT!