Lori,

Thank you for your point of view. Until your post, all of the responses were from survivors or CGs to survivors. And that is the difference.

When my husband was recovering from his first surgery and had just started rads, I wrote a poem that I titled "Battle". It was my perspective of his cancer and writing it was cathartic. I think most people mean well when they refer to Clark as brave. However, he does not see himself this way. Cancer and the issues surrounding it are forever a part of our lives now, inconvenient and ever present. Like a leaky roof--your don't know when it will leak or how bad it will be, but you have put out the pots, and call the roofer. To quote Roseanne Rosannadanna. "It's always something!"

I am so sorry that your Ron passed away.

Anita