Thank you all. I actually was able to sit down with my husband today and we talked a lot about how he was feeling. I told him, you are avoiding the whole issue, and guess what he was. He only head the bad things from the Drs. and is trying to deal with all this. I do have a friend who is a nurse at our school and as agreed to come and help me out when I need it. She has actually said for me to give her the numbers and she would take care of it all. I do go and buy an ace bandage to hold the tub in place. I love it already. It is so much better than tape.
I had no leakage today, and seems that the leakage comes when I am cleaning around the stoma or I hit it in the middle of the night.