Hi Pam,

That is great that you made an appointment with a psychiatrist for him. I think you both will be happy you made that choice. Does your husband want to go? I starting seeing therapist 2 years after my diagnosis and I wish I had done it sooner.

Like Christine said, take some time for yourself too. Talk to a friend about something,anything that is not cancer. It will do you some good. In regards to helping your husband..my idea may not be for all but...When I was home from my surgeries Ray would rub my feet or my shoulders. He made me tea and just other nice things to make day a little bit nicer. Or, when I went to bed he would scratch my back. It really helped me.

Good luck and I will thinking about you.

Suzanne
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T1 SCC on right side of tongue
Age 31...27 when diagnosed
4 partial glossectomies
No chemo or radiation
Biopsy on 2/2/10-Clear
Surgery needed again...no later than April 2011
Loving life and just became a mother on 11/25/10
It's not what we CAN'T do..it's what we CAN do:)