Callie, I know what you are going thru and how difficult it is. I am so sorry!!! Please try to calm down. This isnt helpful to you, your husband or your children. Its time to get a game plan going. How about trying out a different cancer center? If your spouse is from PA, there are several there.

Maybe it would be a good idea to make some tapes of your husband with the kids. This way they will always have them to watch.

There are many caregivers who have a hard time dealing with everything their patient goes thru. Many see a therapist and/or take anxiety meds to help take the edge off. I know you have just been given some shocking news and its such a difficult thing to comprehend all at once. It might not be a bad idea to seek out someone to help you. Many cancer centers have counselors who will help the whole family. Please look into it. Everyone needs you to be ok. Please dont forget to take care of yourself too.

(((HUGS)))

Christine
SCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44
2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07
-65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr
Clear PET 1/08
4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I
surg 4/16/08 clr marg
215 HBO dives
3/09 teeth out, trismus
7/2/09 recur, Stg IV
8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy
3wks medicly inducd coma
2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit
PICC line IV antibx 8 mo
10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg
OC 3x in 3 years
very happy to be alive smile