Hi Callie. You are just like the rest of us. Normal. I too can't but help worry that Kris may have to face more surgery / treatment. Many times each day I have to tell myself not to borrow sorrow from tomorrow. This is easier said than done. One day at a time Callie.
Kris's surgeons also said that the prior radiation would make both the surgery and healing difficult. But the surgeons did a great job and Kris healed without any problems. Like Charm, you have to look very hard to even see the scar now. Apart from the hole in his neck that he breathes through of course. LOL
Thinking of you and your family. One day at a time Callie.
Tammy

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!