Barb
I to hope you work your way threw this. My wife had breast cancer before I got mine it is just as bad on the care giver, as the the one with the cancer. I also went to Mayo, 2005 May.
I have no advise that would be meaningfull, just would like you to know, your not alone in this battle and I hope the best for you both.

Tongue Cancer, stage 4, spread to neck/ Radical neck, 3 chemos, 33 radiation. 5-18-2005