Tom
despite the long term prognosis the fact that you are still being offered treatment options is a very good sign that you can still look forward to some quality time together.Rob lived just three weeks after his recurrence was confirmed and had no offer of life prolonging treatment.Nevertheless we used that time to the full.He was not bedridden and was lucid and aware,and set about putting his life in order.All i could do for him was follow his instructions,and be there for him 24/7.We had some great talks,and said everything we needed to each other -forgave past transgressions,held each other sat quietly ,saw friends,said our goodbyes.whatever time scale they give you tom don't put off anything you want to do together or say to each other,times may get rough and will slip by too quickly,so svour every minute of every day.

good luck to you both.

love liz