Sara, I would bet the divorce would have happened without OC . IT REALLY SOUNDS AS IF HE HAD THIS IN THE BACK OF HIS MIND FOR A LONG TIME. Forgive the caps but i am too tired to retype > Sorry Just don't blame yourself and things will work out for you.

Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here